Anonymous wrote:
Isa I might be gay. Can you help me?
Sexual preference is one of choice of the individual. What you feel in this moment in time may not reflect what you will feel all of your life. Experimentation is sometimes good because that’s how we figure out what we like and what we don’t like. Not just in sexuality but in everything in our lives. How do we discover ourselves? We experiment, we try, we evaluate, we plan, we enjoy and we compare.
So my advice to you would be to not feel bad about your choice. Don’t be concerned about your sexuality, choices or interests. Don’t judge yourself so greatly that you prevent yourself from experiencing and don’t judge yourself so greatly that you bring yourself to fear. Allow yourself to be open and loving to yourself and embrace whatever comes in the moment of what you feel at the time that you need. That doesn’t make you a bad person when you’re not hurting anyone else. There’s no reason for you not to embrace it, not to try it, not to explore it. We are often all unsure of ourselves in things at different stages of our lives and this won’t be the first time that you experience this. It takes a courageous person to face the fear of judgment of another and walk the path they want to walk. But we only have a limited time in this life so we can’t be walking the path that is in conflict to what we desire just to please others. Then we’re not honoring our authentic self. My advice to you would be to honor what you believe to be is your authentic self.
Thank you for trusting in me and asking something so personal. I want to send you love and let you know that the beauty of your heart is what you should look at and not what your preferences are in life. Embrace you and love yourself. That’s the most important thing.
~Isa