Danielle wrote:
Hi Isa. I have been feeling sad lately. I have made choices in my life that have brought me on a new path that makes me happy. I am in a job I love, found my soulmate and doing things that finally make me happy….but I still let the demons of my past haunt me. I wonder about people who dragged me down and hurt me deeply and miss the time we had together Am I going crazy? When will I be able to let go and realize I am in a good place?
Danielle
We miss things from our past because we have this humanness that instigates nostalgia. Even though things from our past may be negative, we still have a connection to them, the emotion attached to them, and when that happens we tend to long for that as if it were a missing piece of us because it’s what we knew in that time. You are right though, you need to let that go, and you need to begin to look forward and look at the present and enjoy what is around you, not what you lost or what is missing from your past. That’s an illusion, it’s not reality. The reality is the present. I’ll reiterate that it is important to focus on yourself because when we focus on ourselves and we love ourselves, we can then experience and enjoy others in joy and love. It is not healthy to get lost in someone else because then we lose our identity. And you’ve just discovered your identity. You’re just at the beginning stages of discovering your identity and that will increase going forward as long as you focus on you.
Be careful with shellfish.
~Isa