Think of something that you don’t like. Is it liver? Broccoli? Now think of so mething that you really like. What about something that you really like but you know you shouldn’t have because it’s not good for you? Is it junk food? Coffee?
We don’t miss what we don’t like. We only miss what we enjoy, what we love. And the things that we don’t like aren’t important to us even though they might be very important to someone else. And sometimes the things that we really like, the things that we love, aren’t good for us. Consequently, we have to learn to balance and negotiate with ourselves.
Even though we love the thing that’s not good for us, we have to make sure that we honor the fact that it’s not good for us. If we still choose to have it, we’re actually hurting ourselves. Therefore we have to pay attention to that choice and the consequences.
One way to deal with something that you really love but can’t have is to pretend that you don’t want it. The human mind and the animal mind are designed the same way. They are driven through an emotional and psychological need so when we convince ourselves that we love something, then we tend to crave it, want it, be obsessed with it. We become addicted to it. But if we can just convince ourselves that we don’t want it, that it’s not something that we like, then we will quickly get over that obsession, addiction, and/or need for that thing.
This concept should be applied to life, not just food. The people in our lives, food, substance abuse or anything that’s unhealthy for us emotionally or physically. We need to love ourselves enough to do it for ourselves. We punish ourselves all too often.
As always, thank you for listening to what I have to say. I send you all my love. Please love yourself.
